Problems with the authorities. Difficult boss
How often do we hear from familiar phrases “bothers me bosses” or “my boss is a tyrant”? Sometimes disagreement with the boss becomes the main cause of dismissal. Do not rush.
It is important to understand why a person has a desire to put other people in a situation of discomfort, and sometimes to humiliate him. Bad attitude does not always mean that you have a bad leader. Maybe someone from the staff does not agree with the boss characters or the boss has a black stripe in life. Or maybe a person is simply out of place. How to build a healthy and productive relationship, even with the most “problem” bosses?
Good boss VS bad boss
Stanford University professor Robert Sutton in his book “Good boss, bad boss: how to become the best, learning from the mistakes of the worst” defines the boss as a person with authority who has frequent and direct contact with subordinates, is responsible for instructing and evaluates their work.
The author believes that, regardless of the size of the company, the success of the manager is due to the ability to communicate with the closest employees – those who feel the results of his work, whom he personally instructs, inspires or makes him follow the discipline. Sutton is confident that the success and failures of each boss depend on how well he builds relationships with employees.
Where do bad managers come from
Difficult bosses create a heavy atmosphere around them by manipulating employees. Why do some bosses manage to rally the team, while others have to endure, prioritizing work and salary? One answer: not everyone can use natural leadership skills. Only honing the ability and creating their own laws, a person will lead others.
The senior researchers at the American Institute of Public Opinion – the Gallup Institute – Tom Rath and Barry Konki in their study “Developing Strong Qualities – The Basis of Leadership” concluded that only a person with a high level of self-awareness would become an effective leader. Productive use of talent determines the behavior of a person in everyday life and at work. And where to get good leaders if most people are not aware of their strengths, succumb to inner fears and imitate other leaders? According to the Gallup Institute, the majority of employees at work do not use natural talents: in the US, 68% of employees, China – 86%, India – 64%, Japan – 85%, Great Britain – 83%, Germany – 74%.
Scientists set Winston Churchill as an example or Mahatma Gandhi. These historical figures are completely different from each other, but they managed to become outstanding leaders in their countries, using and developing their own special talents. A bold and overbearing Churchill would not have been able to mobilize a nation destroyed by the war if he were to imitate the calm approach to governing Gandhi. Nevertheless, the leadership of Gandhi during the Indian struggle for independence was effective. He did not imitate the power line of behavior of the past leadership.
Sorry, are you a tyrant boss?
If one of the employees does not have a relationship with the boss and the latter emphasizes this in every possible way, do not rush to put a “tyrant” on him. Try to take a closer look and get acquainted with its unique character traits. Bad bosses have their own particular style of behavior. For example, to control subordinates and express their emotions, they use specific words, facial expressions, body position at meetings or the workplace, and gait. They even open the door to the office in a special way. With such chiefs it is difficult to communicate. Often the energy expended in talking with them does not correspond to the importance of the problem.
At the request of the BBC, the Quora site asked its respondents about whether there are bad bosses. Most of the participants answered: of course, yes! One of the respondents described difficult bosses as overbearing, aggressive, and self-confident alpha leaders. To achieve their goals, they use either force or charisma. Another quote from the respondents’ reviews: “Evil bosses exist because most people do not stand the test of power, and some of them cannot be allowed to go to the leadership of people — they immediately turn into psychos.”
People defined a bad leader as someone who:
does not know the potential, strengths and weaknesses of the team;
fixated on himself and not listening to subordinates;
does not like to hire smart people.
Among the answers was a simple, but precise definition of a boss-tyrant: “An evil boss is one with whom he categorically does not want to work (and most likely he answers you in return)”.
Interestingly, the specific character traits of such a boss seem unacceptable to some, while others are not at all concerned. Some refer to tyrant bosses as good leaders who in any way achieve results from their employees. And indeed, they set short deadlines for work, require subordinates to perform complex tasks, threatening to dismiss.